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- Our grief specialists provide effective help with your grief.
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When we lose someone important to us, it can make us feel like we have lost our entire footing.
Multiple losses exist.
After a loss, one of the hardest things people often deal with is how others around them view their grieving process, and more, with the spoken and unspoken expectations placed on them in regard to how they “should” or “should not” be grieving.
For example, while friends and relatives have moved on, that person may still be dealing with their loss.
They hear things like, “It’s been almost a year, why aren’t you over it already?” or “They lived a long life,” or “Don’t worry, they’re in a better place now.” This is especially true in today’s world which often treats death as a subject not to be discussed.
It is important to remember that when we lose someone significant to us, more than a life is lost—a relationship is lost, who we were to that person is lost, and our way of living and relating to the world around us has dramatically changed.
This can be very isolating.
Our initial responses to loss can feel unbearable.
In 1969, Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, in her seminal book, On Death and Dying, described a 5-stage model of grief, which many people are familiar with.
She believed that people experiencing loss went through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. We used to believe that these stages were experienced in a linear way—that a person had to go through denial to get to anger, and so on.
We know now, however, that grief is not a straight path forward and everyone’s grief response will vary greatly depending on several factors, including (but certainly not limited to) the person’s relationship to the person they lost, a person’s culture and how that culture defines appropriate grieving behavior, how a person makes meaning of the death, and what the roles are in a person’s family system.
While not all deaths are traumatic in nature, it is important to remember that any death is almost always at least momentarily traumatic. Some common initial responses to loss include:
While not all deaths are traumatic in nature, it is important to remember that any death is almost always at least momentarily traumatic. Some common initial responses to loss include:
- Numbness
- Feeling like you’re on autopilot
- Shock
- Sadness
- Disbelief
- Experiencing changes in your sleep and appetite
- Feeling disoriented and confused
- Feelings of inadequacy or like you are going crazy
While these feelings can be scary, it's important not to view these responses in terms of positive and negative.
When the fog begins to lift.
Grief counseling is about giving you permission to grieve—on your own terms.
First and foremost, grief counseling is about providing you with a safe space to examine and feel your grief however it shows up. The goal of grief counseling is not to take away your symptoms, but instead, to make your grief process visible—to help you experience your grief in a way that lends to healing. Grief work is also about finding meaning, helping you to make sense of, and respond to, your loss.
What grief counseling is not.
From our perspective, therapists and counselors who view their role in grief counseling as a way to help people overcome their grief are in danger of negating, or getting in the way of, the ongoing connection that a person can have with the person they have lost—a connection that can often lead to profound positive changes.
For one, a person may start to view themselves or others differently in response to processing through their grief. They may feel a sense of empowerment, or develop a new voice. One example of this is Mother’s Against Drunk Driving (MADD) which was started by a grieving mother who wanted to help prevent someone else’s child from being killed by a drunk driver.
Again, if we treat grief like a disease, then we risk inevitably suggesting to ourselves and others that there is some prescriptive way to grieve—a “right” way to grieve. It is clear, however, that grief is an ongoing process—one that ebbs and flows, so stopping there could risk wrongly painting grief as one-dimensional experience whose only end is pain and heartache.
“The only way beyond the experience of grief is through the expreince of grief.” –Alan Wolfelt
What to expect with grief counseling.
As you transition and go through your grief, you may start to feel like your grief no longer runs your life. While the pain of your loss will still be there, it will no longer take your breath away. Instead, understanding your loss can become sustaining, helping you to develop of a new philosophy of living, a better sense of yourself, and lead to a deeper understanding of your relationships.
If you are up for the journey, grief counseling can help you experience profound existential and spiritual growth, and increase your resiliency along the way.
How grief counseling can help.
Our counselors have had extensive experience in helping people who are grieving the loss of a loved one, or the loss of a relationship they wish they’d had.
Grief counseling can help you:
Reconstruct the nature of your relationship with the person you lost
Find a sense of control when it feels as though you have lost everything
Help you learn how to deal with your new normal, instead of trying to cure your grief
Understand the true nature of your loss
But our minds are not the only place that trauma is recorded. Trauma researchers have discovered that trauma impacts and is actually stored in our bodies (1). In fact, to your body, physical and emotional pain register as being one and the same (6).
Thus, it should come as no shock to learn that people who have suffered trauma are at greater risk for poor physical health outcomes, including increased risk for cancers, diabetes, arthritis and digestive diseases (9); depression and impaired stress response (5); anxiety and substance abuse (3); and systemic inflammation (4).